B. Intrinsic Characteristics (Joy Related).

1. Harmony.  Harmony, as it relates to personality traits, refers to balance and symmetry.  Often harmony is suppressed in the turmoil of chaos.  But sometimes chaos is an illusion and does not actually exist.  Therefore, before delving into methods to bring harmony in the midst of chaos, it is important to determine if chaos actually exists. 

Media is financially motivated to generate the greatest amount of viewership.  Emotions are the main cause increasing viewership.  That is because, emotions are the driving force behind all advertising and propaganda.  If there are emotions that are tickling your attention, it is a giant red flag that the information may not be based on facts but on emotions.  Detecting what is an emotion and what is a fact is not as easy.  The section on motivation identifies things to look for in detecting emotional tickles.  There is a fun quiz at the end of that section to see how good you are at detecting emotions.   

If chaos actually exists, then there are methods to introduce harmony.  These methods have been in existence for thousands of years.  

  • The one most often practiced is to ignore or avoid it.  This is also the one solution that is the least effective.  If a pile of stones are stacked on top of each other and one falls off, walking away or closing your eyes for a few minutes does not result in the rocks being in a balanced stack when you return or open your eyes.  It merely delays your acceptance of the effect.
  • Another method is to attack the chaos with overwhelming force.  This has its own problems.  For example, if there is a house on fire, dousing the entire house with massive amounts of water will put the fire out.  But the charred wood remains and there is now the addition of water damage.  This does not bring harmony.
  • A third method is to compromise.  This involves giving up something and getting something in return.  If the parties mutually agree then this brings true harmony. 

2. Happiness. Happiness is a goal for all people.  But the definition of happiness varies between personality types.  With respect to Type C personalities, happiness is the difference between the good times and the bad times.  

Leave it to the C-types to define happiness with an equation.  But, take deeper look…  Can a person be happy if there is nothing to compare it to?  Can college students be happy at graduation if they have already graduated 100 times before?  How can one judge when they are happy if they have never experienced sadness? 

Hidden in the equation is the realization that Type C people practice optimism.  They can handle sad times knowing that they will appreciate the good times more when they come.  Optimism is a happier feeling than pessimism. 

Hank Williams was born in Alabama to a poor hard working family.  As a kid he shined shoes and sold peanuts in order to help his family survive.  He had spina bifida and became addicted to pain killers.  But, each one of these hardships inspired him to write song lyrics.  He became one of the greatest country western song writers of all times.  Turning lemons into lemonade is the result of optimism. 

3. Emotion Management. Understanding the cause of emotions allows C-types to assess the truth and then determine an appropriate solution.  Analyzing emotions does not mean an absence of emotions.  All healthy humans experience the same emotions.  Darwin theorized that there are 5 basic emotions: fear, anger, sadness, happiness, and love.  Another added the emotion of disgust, making it 6 basic emotions.  Some studies say 27 basic emotions exist and others report that the number is 90.  Suffice it to say, all personality types have the same number of emotions.  What distinguishes the difference in personality types is how they handle those emotions.

For example, if you know that a false statement caused a particular emotion, then discovering that it is false will reduce the stress. 

Jane felt sad and embarrassed because someone on social media called her disrespectful.  An investigation discovered that the person who made the statement tried to cut in front of her in line at the local grocery store.  Jane’s response of, “I’m sorry, but I was here first,” stopped them. The accusation of Jane being disrespectful loses its validity in the face of the facts.

Since sadness is a state of mind, knowing that the statement was false can remove the sad feeling; however, the embarrassment that it caused may need a reply before it goes away.  And even then, there are a couple of problems.  Discovering that the basis for the statement was false may create anger.  Swapping one emotion for another does not resolve the stress.  Also, if a reply is made, it may trigger a response and start new emotions in an ongoing tit for tat scenario. 

There are many techniques that reduce emotional stress. And they work for all personality types.  Below are a few methods.  Post them on your refrigerator or computer display as a reminder. 

  • Go for a walk in a beautiful park. Exercise reduces stress while making the body stronger.  Go dancing.  That is the gold standard — physical and mental exercises coupled with fun and bonding. 

  • Forgive whoever caused the stress. In order for the stress to go away, your forgiveness must be sincere.  Forgiveness is for your benefit, not for the person who caused it.  Continued stress hurts you and probably has little effect on the perpetrator.  You do not need to tell the perpetrator that you forgave them.  Sometimes it may embolden them.  Most of the time, however, it sparks a friendship.

  • Everyone has room for improvement and making modifications of your choosing will inevitably benefit you. 

  • If you are religious, ask your creator for guidance. Talk with your minister or a close friend.  Talking releases pinned up frustration. 

  • Compliment someone you don’t know. This makes you feel good (joy), which incrementally smothers negative feelings (fear).  For every negative emotion caused by others (including the news media) compliment 3 strangers.  The smiles that you see from each compliment replace the thoughts from the negative emotions.  

  • Shift your attention to something uplifting.
  • Put together a jigsaw puzzle, fill out a cross-word puzzle, or play a solitaire card game. These all provide beneficial mental distractions.

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