Type D Personality

What is a Type D Personality Trait

a. Type D Personality Extrinsic Characteristics (Stress or Fear Related)

Of the four types, this one is more difficult to define.  They are observant and clever.  And these two characteristics form their main Extrinsic Trait.

Anticipation.

This trait allows them to predict future events.  But it is not soothsaying.  It is the ability to observe and understand the every day signals occurring around you.  They put all of those observations together to make predictions.   To understand how this is accomplished, click on the Read More link below. 

1. Anticipation. This is the intuitive ability to use past events to forecast a future occurrence.  Forecasting is a routine and necessary function for all businesses and governmental entities.  It is also the foundation for all product marketing, i.e., the thing that will increase future sales.

A company sought advice from a marketing firm in order to help them sell a breakfast cereal.  A tiger was suggested as the motivating icon. It projected strength to those who ate the cereal, while imparting health benefits from the hidden vitamins.  The marketing firm’s ability to predict how the public would react to the tiger mascot, is a classic example of how anticipation led to Kellogg’s Frosted Flakes™ becoming one of the Nation’s most recognized cereals.

In 1824 Andrew Jackson ran against John Quincy Adams.  A newspaper conducted a poll of 500 people and Andrew Jackson received the most votes.  This started the era of using the straw poll to predict who will win the most votes.

Marketing methods use many of the same assumptions that are intuitively used by Type D personalities under the anticipation trait.  One of the most effective advertising messages used an FDA warning as a clever tool:

A drug company selling medication to improve sexual performance inserted into their warnings: “Seek medical attention for erections lasting more than 4 hours.”  It’s not hard to see why sales suddenly skyrocketed.

While C-types analyze data and make mathematical projections based on graphs and figures, the Type D people use intuitive abilities that predict human behaviors.  Since biology has an infinite number of variables and rejects being bound by mathematical formulas, the D-types are often better at projections that have emotional elements.

Caesar was warned by a soothsayer that harm would come during the Ides of March.   When nothing happened, Caesar scolded the seer on his way to the Theater of Pompey.  He was stabbed 23 times upon his arrival there.

These soothsayers are not mystical supernatural psychics.  They recognize the mood of the people, understand consequences, observe if someone is accessible, and how much protection they have.  Based on these observations they can make pretty good predictions.  Caesar likely had a high probability of being assassinated.

2. Cautious. Caution is the care taken to avoid danger or mistakes based on anticipation.  It is a form of self-protection.  It weighs the anticipated risks, the probabilities and consequences of doing nothing, and then projects the need to take action.  Everyone has seen signs of caution or disclosures of risks.  Examples are: traffic signs, warning labels on everything from aspirin to baseball tickets, things that are hot or cold, intoxicating beverages, how to raise children, etc. Even marriage licenses have subtle warnings.  These words of caution are literally everywhere.

The Titanic was the greatest ship at the time.  Perhaps they needed a warning sign: “Only enough lifeboats for first class passengers.”

Next time you see a caution or warning sign, smile, and say, “Thank you D-types.”

3. Observant. This word has many meanings. But the one best used in describing this personality trait is being careful in honoring rites, laws, and customs.  A few examples include:

Setting up and operating internet/telephone trees to notify others of rules relating to Covid-19 safety recommendations.

Participation in home delivery meals for unemployed people for a local church or charitable organization.

Calling the police about people speeding on residential streets.

Reporting those people and companies hoarding thousands of hand sanitizer bottles, toilet paper supplies, and protective masks.

4. Control/Power. As with all personality traits, D-types also use control and power to anticipate future probabilities.  Most people do this through marketing.

The Dos Equis ad, “The Most Interesting Man in the World,” implies that if you start drinking Dos Equis you will become attractive to women.  The marketing campaign was successful.

Elon Musk was about to send a test rocket to space, but he needed bags of sand for weight.  Instead, he used a Tesla convertible car as the payload weight.  He put a fake dummy behind the wheel.  A camera showed the dummy driving the car in space with Earth in the background.  The implication was that everyone should buy a car that is out of this world.  It was unexpectedly successful.

b. Type D Personality Intrinsic Characteristics (Joy Related).

Can you answer this question.   Which personality trait is the most powerful and most misunderstood? 

Forgiveness.

It is the dominate intrinsic trait of the D Type Personalities.

The biggest mistake that people make is believing that  forgiveness benefits the perpetrator.   Not true. 

To learn why and various techniques in handling this powerful trait, click on the Read More Link below.  

1. Forgiveness.  The dictionary describes it as the ability to cease feeling resentment towards another. 

 It directed solely to helping the victim, i.e. the person who has been hurt.   This definition does not include telling the person who caused the hurt that they are forgiven.   Finally the definition does not mention grief from a hurtful action or losing a loved one.  It only deals with resentment or internal anger towards another.  Grieving is healing action, while resentment or anger is a stressing action.   

Type D personalities use forgiveness in multiple ways.  The anticipation and caution traits deal with protecting oneself against future risks, which is also an underlying element of forgiveness, i.e., protecting oneself.  D-types are agreeable and dislike conflict, which is also a part of forgiveness.  Another connection is that forgiveness is a fundamental law of most religions.  This is a part of the observant trait.  Because of these multiple connections, forgiveness forms a dominate trait of Type D personalities. 

David Luke Brown is a police officer in Greencastle, Indiana.  He was shot by a thief and returned fire, injuring the shooter.  While waiting for the ambulance, he forgave the shooter and tended to the shooter’s injuries.  The forgiveness trait is shared by the vast majority of police officers.   

Steve McDonald was a police officer who was shot by a teenager that left him paralyzed.  Officer McDonald forgave the boy.  While the teenager was serving his prison sentence, the two worked together to promote forgiveness. 

Mary Johnson’s son was murdered.  When the shooter was released from prison, he moved in next door to Mary, because she had forgiven him.

While Jesus was dying on the cross, he said, “Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.” Luke 23:34

Practice forgiving.  Start out forgiving someone of a minor problem.  Find a quiet place where you are alone.  Close your eyes and say out loud.  “I forgive you for…..”  Be specific so that you acknowledge what it was that hurt you.  Say it three times.  Try to make sure that you mean it.  Then wait a few days and repeat the same forgiveness. 

Observe how you feel.  This observation is very important.  It reinforces the reward or benefit to you personally. 

If you can talk about this person without feeling hurt or angry, you have successfully forgiven them.  Telling the person that you forgave them, is not required.  

Repeat this process a month later on another hurtful situation and each time take on a more serious transgression. 

The only thing you have to lose is your own stress. 

2. Agreeable. This means a willingness to do something or consent to something.  The agreeable trait defines someone who is cooperative, polite, kind, and friendly.  Even something as simple as giving examples is helpful.

Most playgrounds have teeter totters.  It takes two people of similar weights to play at one time.  Typically there is a line of kids waiting their turn.  Kids who peacefully wait in line for their turn are exhibiting the agreeable trait.

Getting in line or queue is ubiquitous in all societies.  This is a classic example of how D-types have made their mark on society. 

The agreeable trait has a tendency to make nice friendly agreeable people blend into the background.  The musical “Chicago” by John Kander and Fred Ebb presents the classic example of this trait with the character known as Mr. Cellophane brilliantly played by John C. Reilly.  Everyone needs to see this musical to have a front row seat in understanding the “agreeable trait.”

3. Self-Compassion. Self-compassion is the same thing as being compassionate to others, but instead of being directed at other people, it is turned inward and directed at one’s self.  It is similar to the caution trait which is aimed at protection of self.  Self-compassion is the ability to understand and accept who you are and to love yourself.  It requires knowledge of psychology and an understanding of emotions.  Type D people are more apt to know when their mind is creating negative thoughts and to implement techniques for handling them.  Negative thoughts are almost always based on false premises.  Here are a few techniques to help you understand them:

  • Recognize. The first thing you need to do is recognize your negative thoughts.  This is not always easy, but there are some clues that can help.  If your mind says that it’s crystal clear that you screwed up, this is false – nothing is ever crystal clear.  If your mind is saying it’s a yes or no situation, it is most likely a negative thought.  If you personalize something that someone said as being directed at you, it’s most likely a negative thought.  If you perceive only the negative side of a situation and nothing positive, it is a negative thought.  There are always positive things out of every situation.  The easiest of them all to identify is the cataclysmic consequence.  There are no cataclysmic situations.  The world did not end from a nuclear holocaust, every climate change cataclysmic prediction failed to occur, the Heaven’s Gate world destruction prediction did not occur, the end of the Maya calendar had no effect, etc.

  • Evaluate. The next step is to evaluate you negative thoughts.  This too is difficult, since negative thoughts are generated in your head.  There is a tendency to validate what is in your mind as opposed to invalidate it.  But remember, almost all negative thoughts are false.  Think about the other negative thoughts you have had and what actually happened.  The world did not end, you did not die, your friends are still your friends, etc.  If your team did not win because you did not wear our lucky shirt, think about all the times you wore your lucky shirt and the team did not win.  Here is where common sense is an effective tool. 

Having bad or naughty thoughts has no connection to the real world.  Those thoughts are normal.  Often you can connect the negative thought to someone or something that invoked the guilt trip. 

  • Divert. There are many techniques to divert attention to something else.  Here are a few suggestions:

      • Think of 10 positive things you did today. Be as specific as possible.  If you cannot think of anything, think a little harder.  Did you make your bed?  Did you brush your teeth?  Did you smile?  Why did you smile?  Did you make breakfast?  How many people in the world can’t do that?  Did you clean the counter?   There is a high probability that by the time you list 10 things, the negative thoughts will have passed.

      • Reduce your time on social media outside of your immediate family by 10 minutes each day until you are down to 30 minutes per day maximum. Research has shown that social media is a trigger to many negative thoughts.

      • Count the number of negative thoughts you have each day and jot them down in a place that only you have access.  Then do not watch the news—any news—on television, cell phone or computer screen for one day.  Then count the number of negative thoughts during that day.  Remember, news is not really news, it is sensationalized material meant to stir your emotions so that you will listen longer.  

There is a good chance that following these suggestions will allow you to love yourself a little more than before.

c. How to Appeal to a Type D Personality.

The D Types are great listeners.  They are uncomfortable in large parties and will often be off by themselves.

Asking about topics involving future events, such as climate change, will be welcomed with enthusiasm.

Avoid situations or meetings that are chaotic or loud. The same is true for anything that glorifies or describes violence, chaos, or hate.  Click on the Read More link for more insights.

 If you want to get something off your chest, seek out a D-type and ask if you can talk.  The best time to do this is at a large party or gathering.  The D-types are ones that are typically off by themselves.  They prefer one-on-one discussions.  In those conversations avoid topics relating to violence, chaos, or hate. 

They are uncomfortable around people and events that are chaotic or unorganized.  A social event at a museum would be great.  In this regard it would be wise to find out what hobbies and interests they have. 

Asking about climate change will definitely catch the D-type’s attention.  It does not mean they believe it, but it involves projections of future events.  This is right up their alley.  It will be an interesting and exciting conversation.  

Anything about future events is open season.  If you are in a business meeting with a Type D person, make sure to incorporate a prospectus on future projections and be prepared to answer detailed questions.  Types of warning labels are also a friendly topic for discussion.  For example, you might ask, “How would you phrase this type of warning?” 

Never get drunk in the presence of D-types.  That throws up giant, invisible caution signs.  On the other hand, if you make a mistake, or have an awkward moment, ask them to forgive you.  They almost certainly will.    

d. Weaknesses/Vulnerabilities/Dislikes.

The ability to anticipate things that have not occurred is also the source of great stress when those predictions miss the mark.  As such, this is their greatest weakness. 

How this topic is approached is very important and things that should never be done are provided in the Read More link below.

Anticipation and caution make Type D people vulnerable to feeling responsible for failed predictions or warnings.  This happens frequently and requires preparation and novel approaches. 

For example, when discussing missed predictions is best to talk in probabilities rather than, “You blew that one.”  There are zero future predictions that have a 100% accuracy.  The sun and moon rising have high probability, but even those are not 100%.

The agreeable trait carries a significant business weakness. 

For example, Type D people tend not to voice objections when others are present.   Rather than assert their opposition, they hold back.  This causes stress in two ways.  First, the position they are disputing may be adopted.  Second, the failure to say something is internalized and they feel guilty of being weak. 

When a competitor knows you are a D-type, they will intentionally have a large number of people at the meeting.  Then they will make any opposition front and center.  

They will asks something like: “If anyone has an objection please raise your hand.” 

The D-type will not want to be the only one voting against the proposal and may not raise their hand. 

There are two basic ways to handle this situation.  First, do not go into meetings with multiple people.  The Type D people have no problem voicing their opinion in a one-on-one meeting.  However, if a solo meeting is impossible, the next best thing is to have a proxy attend the meeting.    

A common tactic of judges during the questioning of jurors is to ask, “Is there anyone here that feels they cannot serve as a fair and impartial juror?”  This is done to speed up the process.  However, it comes with some risk.  D Types, like anyone else, may have some serious biases.  This tactic may not be fair to one side.

People have tried to use the forgiveness trait against the D-type.  However, it seldom works, since they practice forgiveness all the time and they know when not to disclose it. 

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