Adjusted Joy to Fear Ratio
A. Importance of Adjusted Fear and Joy Ratio
The rough Joy to Fear ratio does not consider the intensity or frequency of experiencing those fears. Hence, a fear which is intense counts the same as a mild fear. The same issue applies to how often these fears are encountered per year or month.
This section takes into account the intensity and frequency in a general way. Worksheets are displayed below and involve a little more work than the Rough ratio and give you slightly more accurate information.
A C-type Personality probably created these worksheets. One created by a B-Type would not exist. They may believe that a formula or number cannot measure people and feelings. The A Type of person probably feels the entire exercise is dumb and a waste of time and money. The D type might think using numbers and ratings might cause more harm than good.
The worksheets are to be printed and filled out at your home. They contain personal information about you. Quorvita researched whether this information could be maintained confidentially in an online database and concluded that it could not. See an article by Boris Pfeiffer entitled Are online Quizzes Still safe? They figured they could be safe but beware. Keep this information only in your possession.
Fill out the form like the one set forth below. List no more than 15 nor less than 3 Joys.
It is easy to copy the form. Right-click on a PC or control-click on a Mac and scroll down to “Take a Screen Shot.” Then hold the left button down, outline the area you want to copy (aka drag), and click. Click on the download button, and the screenshot will be saved to your download folder. There you can print it. It is recommended that you print in the landscape printer option. You can follow the same process for the instructions below each worksheet. You are hereby given permission to copy these sections for your personal use only.
Worksheet 1-List of Your Joys
| Joy Name | F -Frequency | P-Pleasure | F times P |
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Instructions on how to Complete Form 1 (Joy):
F = This is your frequency, i.e., the number of times or how often you have this Joy in a particular period. The period could be the number of times per day, week, month, or year, as long as you use the same period for that Joy. Joy A may have an average of 2 times per month. If you are above your average for that Joy, that will relate to the same period. For example, if your average for Joy A is three times per month, then to be above average, it would need to be four or more times in a month. If you have not done this Joy in the last year, it does not count as one of your Joys. The following numbers should be used in Form 1:
- 1.5 if this is your highest or top frequency,
- 1.2 if this Joy is above your average frequency,
- 1.0 if this is your average frequency (default value),
- 0.75 if this is below your average frequency, and
- .5 if this is your lowest frequency.
P = This is a pleasure amount; it is a measure of how much you like each Joy. It has the following values:
- 2.0 if this is at the top of your highest pleasure;
- 1.5 if this Joy is above your average pleasure value;
- 1.0 if this Joy meets your average pleasure value;
- 0.75 if this Joy is below your average pleasure value; and
- 0.5 if this Joy is your lowest pleasure value.
Joys.
A Spouse or Significant Other counts as one Joy with a frequency set at 1.
Each Child Counts as one Joy with a frequency of 1.
The pleasure of the spouse and child should be set at 1, as giving any preferences between children is improper, and rating your spouse is a no-no.
Each Activity counts as one Joy.
Humor counts as one Joy. You must see at least two comedy movies to count as one joy or attend at least one live comedy show per year.
Reading at least 2 hours of Inspiring Stories per month is required to count as one Joy.
Attending at least one church meeting per year counts as one Joy.
A compliment is a powerful tool and easy to adopt. To constitute a Joy, you must do all three of the following:
- If you have a spouse or significant other, you must compliment them at least one time per week for at least four consecutive months in the last year;
- If you have children living at your home, you must compliment each of them at least one time per week for at least four consecutive months in the last year; and
- You must compliment a friend, acquaintance, or stranger at least six times in the last year.
The Forgiveness Credit is given if you have genuinely forgiven someone who hurt you or your family or your feelings and carried anger inside you. This does not require that you inform the wrongdoer. It only requires a true release of your anger if you qualify to place 1 in the F times P column.
Then multiply each Joy Frequency by the Pleasure Rating and enter that number in the column F times P. When you finish listing your joys, add the numbers in the last column together and enter the total at the bottom of the form.
The Next Form deals with your fears. Fill out a form like the one below and list no more than nine or less than two fears.
Worksheet 2-List of Your Fears
| Fear Name | F -Frequency | S - Stress | F times S |
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Instructions on How to Complete Form 2 (Fear):
F = This is your frequency number or how often you have to face this Fear each year. If you have not faced this fear over the last year but thought or worried about it during the last year, it counts as a fear. Use the following numbers in Form 2.
- 1.5 if this fear is your top or most frequently encountered;
- 1.2 if you are above your average frequency;
- 1.0 if you meet your average frequency (default value),
- 0.75 if you are below your average frequency,
- 0.5 if you experience this fear the least often of all other fears.
S = This is your Fear Stress Level. It has the following values:
- 2.0 if this is your top Fear (not requiring professional help);
- 1.5 if this Fear is above your average value;
- 1.0 if this Fear is an average fear value (default value) value;
- 0.75 if this Fear is below your average value; and
- 0.5 if this Fear is your lowest value.
Each Fear identified in the List of Fears counts as one Fear. The fear must be more than simple discomfort. You must experience some measurable anxiety, such as pupils dilating, heart rate increase, a scream, running away, etc.).
All other Fears or social anxiety disorders identified by Professionals each count as a Fear.
Then multiply each Fear Frequency (F) by the Stress Level (S) and enter that number in the last column.
The Forgiveness Debit is given if you have genuinely forgiven someone who has hurt you or your family or your feelings and you carried anger inside you. This does not require that you inform the wrongdoer. It only requires a true release of your anger. If you qualify, place a minus one (-1) in the last column.
When you finish listing your fears, add the numbers in the last column and enter the total at the bottom of the worksheet.
B. What Your Adjusted Joy to Fear Ratio Means
Take the total outlined in Worksheet 1 and divide that number by the total number outlined in worksheet 2. That is your adjusted ratio.
What Does your Adjusted Joy to Fear Ratio Mean?
Suppose your ratio is three or above: Congratulations. You are in the proper range.
If your number is between 2.1 and 2.9, try doing one or more of the following:
- (a) reduce the frequency and stress level of your worst fear;
- (b) increase the frequency or the amount of pleasure of two or more of your Joys; and
- (c) forgive someone who has hurt you or your feelings.
If your number is two or below, you need to act; the sooner you act, the better. The suggestion is to do at least two of the following:
- (a) reduce the frequency and stress level of your bottom two fears,
- (b) increase the frequency and pleasure of at least two of your Joys,
- (c) add at least one new Joy, and
- (d) forgive someone who has hurt you or your feelings.