Adjusted Joy to Fear Ratio

Adjusted Joy and Fear Ratio

A. Importance of Adjusted Fear and Joy Ratio

The rough Joy to Fear ratio does not take into account the intensity of the fear or the frequency of experiencing those fears.  Hence, a fear which is intense counts the same as a fear that is mild.  The same issue applies to the how often these fears are encountered per year or month. 

This section attempts to take into account the intensity and frequency in a general way.   Worksheets are displayed below and involve a little more work than the Rough ratio and give you a slightly more accurate information. 

 These worksheets were probably created by a C-type Personality.  One created by a B-Type would not exist.  They may believe that people and feelings cannot be measured by a formula or number.  The A Type person probably feels the entire exercise is dumb and a waste of time and money.  The D type might feel that attempting to use numbers and ratings might cause more harm than good.

The worksheets are to be printed and filled out at your home.  They contain personal information about you.  Quorvita researched whether this information could be maintained confidential in an on-line database and concluded that it could not.  See a article by Boris Pfeiffer entiled Are on-line Quizzes Still safe.  They concluded they can be safe but beware.  Keep this information only in your possession. 

Fill out the form like the one set forth below.  List no more than 15 nor less than 3 Joys. 

It is easy to copy the form.  Right click on a PC or control click on a Mac and scroll down to “Take a Screen Shot.”  Then hold the left button down and outline the area that you want to copy (aka drag) and then click.  Click on the download button and the screen shot will be saved to your download folder.  There you can print it.  It is recommended that you print in the landscape printer option.  You can follow the same process for the instructions below each worksheet.  You are hereby given permission to copy these sections for your personal use only. 

Worksheet 1-List of Your Joys

Joy Name F -Frequency P-Pleasure F times P

Forgiveness Credit

Total

Instructions on how to Complete Form 1 (Joy):

 F = This is your frequency , i.e. the number of times or how often you have this Joy in a particular period.  The period could be the number of times per day, week, month or year, as long as you use the same period for that Joy.  Joy A may have an average of 2 times per month.  If you are above your average for that Joy then that would relate to the same period.  For example, if your average for Joy A is 3 times per month, then to be above average it would need to be 4 or more times in a month.   If you have not done this Joy in the last year, it does not count as one of your Joy’s.  The following numbers should be used in Form 1:

  • 1.5   if this is your highest or top frequency,
  • 1.2   if this Joy is above your average frequency,
  • 1.0   if this is your average frequency (default value),
  • 0.75  if this is below your average frequency, and
  • .5  if this is your lowest frequency.

P = This is a pleasure amount, that is, it is a measure of how much you like each Joy.  It has the following values:

  • 2.0  if this is at the top or your highest pleasure;
  • 1.5   if this Joy is above your average pleasure value;
  • 1.0   if this Joy meets your average pleasure value;
  • 0.75   if this Joy is below your average pleasure value; and
  • 0.5   if this Joy is your lowest pleasure value.

Joys.

A Spouse or Significant Other counts as one Joy with a frequency set at 1.

Each Child Counts as one Joy with a frequency of 1.

The pleasure of the spouse and child should be set at 1, as it is improper to give any preferences between children, and rating your spouse is a no-no.

Each Activity counts as one Joy.

Humor counts as one Joy.  You must see at least 2 comedy movies to count as one joy or attend at least one live comedy show per year.  

Reading at least 2 hours of Inspiring Stories per month  is required to count as one Joy. 

Attending at least 1 church meeting per year counts as one Joy.

Compliments is a powerful tool and easy to adopt.  In order to constitute a Joy, you must do all three of the following:

  1.  If you have a spouse or significant other, you must compliment him or her at least 1 time per week for at least 4 consecutive months in the last year; 
  2. If you have children living at your home, you must compliment each of them at least 1 time per week for at least 4 consecutive months in the last year; and 
  3. You  must compliment a friend, acquaintance or stranger at least 6 times in the last year. 

The Forgiveness Credit is given if you have truly forgiven someone who has hurt you or your family or your feelings and you carried anger inside you.  This does not require that you inform the wrongdoer.  It only requires a true release of your anger.  If you qualify place 1 in the F times P column.  

Then multiple each Joy Frequency by the Pleasure Rating and enter that number in the column F times P.    When you finish listing your joys, add the numbers in the last column together and enter the total at the bottom of the form.

The Next Form deals with your fears.  Fill out a form like the one shown below and list no more than 9 nor less than 2 fears.  

Worksheet 2-List of Your Fears

Fear Name F -Frequency S - Stress F times S

Forgiveness Debit

Total

Instructions on How to Complete Form 2 (Fear):

F = This is your frequency number or how often you have to face this Fear each year.  If you have not faced this fear over the last year but you thought or worried about it during the last year, then it counts as a fear.  Use the following numbers in Form 2.

  • 1.5  if this fear is your top or most frequently encountered;
  • 1.2  if you are above your average frequency;
  • 1.0  if you meet your average frequency (default value),
  • 0.75  if you are below your average frequency,
  • 0.5  if you experience this fear the least often of all other fears.

S = This is your Fear Stress Level.  It has the following values:

  • 2.0  if this is your top Fear (not a requiring professional help);
  • 1.5   if this Fear is above your average value;
  • 1.0   if this Fear is an average fear value (default value) value;
  • 0.75 if this Fear is below your average value; and
  • 0.5 if this Fear is your lowest value.

Each Fear identified in the List of Fears counts as one Fear.  The fear must be more than simple discomfort.  You must experience have some measurable anxiety, such as pupils dilating, heart rate increase, a scream, running away, etc.).

All other Fears or social anxiety disorders identified by Professionals, each count as a Fear.

Then multiple each Fear Frequency (F)  by the Stress Level (S) and enter that number in the last column.   

The Forgiveness Debit is given if you have truly forgiven someone who has hurt you or your family or your feelings and you carried anger inside you.  This does not require that you inform the wrongdoer.  It only requires a true release of your anger.  If you qualify place a minus one (-1) in the last column. 

When you finish listing your fears, add the numbers in the last column and enter the total at the bottom of the worksheet.

B. What Your Adjusted Joy to Fear Ratio Means

Take the total set forth in Worksheet 1 and divide that number by the total number set forth in worksheet 2.  That is your adjusted ratio. 

What Does your Adjusted Joy to Fear Ratio Mean.

If your ratio is 3 or above:  Congratulations.  You are in the proper range.

If your number is between 2.1 and 2.9, try doing one or more of the following:

  • (a) reduce the frequency and stress level of your worst fear;
  • (b) increase the frequency or the amount of pleasure of two or more of your Joys; and
  • (c) forgive someone who has hurt you or your feelings.

If your number is 2 or below, you need to act and the sooner you act the better.  The suggestion is do at least two of the following:

  • (a) reduce the frequency and stress level of your bottom two fears,
  • (b) increase the frequency and pleasure of at least two of your Joys,
  • (c) add at least 1 new Joy, and
  • (d) forgive someone who has hurt you or your feelings.  
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